Thursday, February 27, 2014

Uncertainty

Walt Whitman once said, “The future is no more uncertain than the present.” I say, “Amen to that.” Our present is pretty uncertain…
My family and I just moved back to the states from Puerto Rico. We flew three checked bags, one Rubbermaid, a jogging stroller, an umbrella stroller, a car seat, and a dog. We have no job lined up and not much in savings. I promise we are not crazy, but I also promise there’s never a dull moment!




This week we spent several days in Houston, Tx while my husband, J, interviewed all around the area. Despite all of the uncertainty…two things became crystal clear during this trip. First, H. E. B. is exceptionally beautiful after living in a little town on an island where produce variety is small and expensive. Words cannot accurately express the emotions I experienced when I saw that I could buy blackberries, strawberries, brussel sprouts, and cauliflower for a total of $7!! In Puerto Rico, that could have potentially totaled at $22!! It’s true; I am NOT telling lies here. Then, as we proceeded through the gorgeousness of food, all of the dried beans, peas, and lentils are HALF as much as what I was used to paying on the hospitable little island. J can attest to the literal tears in my eyes. I have seriously thanked God every day for the past several days for American grocery stores. It’s amazing.

The second thing that became clear is that this season of our lives is just another part of God’s plan that He refuses to include us in on until the last minute. My husband is amazing, and I’m not just saying that. He’s good at what he does for his career, he’s a near-perfect husband, and he’s one of the best dads to our little boy (M) that I’ve ever seen. He’s been on several interviews, and the wait is KILLER! It’s one of those times in life that I can’t talk to God without reminding Him that He can let us know where we will be living any time now…sooner is better, Lord.

With that said, I’m not sure I have any words of wisdom or pleas for change today. I don’t have a recipe idea or a product review. I just have a deeper appreciate for affordable, high quality veg along with an open and honest frustration in the way our Creator chooses to do things sometimes. If uncertainty builds character, we must have truly amazing personalities. ;)

God bless.

-Hollie

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

My Pregnancy, Birth, and Parenting Book Favorites


DisclaimerBooks should not be where you go for "answers". They should be used to supplement or enhance your style of (fill in the blank). Yes, I understand that for first time parents pregnancy, birth, and pretty much every moment from then on is unfamiliar, but I PROMISE you, you already have ideals and values that are going to shape the decisions you are going to have to make throughout your parenting journey. And I hope that you will first evaluate and even write down what they are before reading any parenting or pregnancy book. If not I trully believe that you will end up feeling overwhelmed and never obtain the satisfaction of knowing that you are enough for your child, even if you don't have a book or expert to consult. ALL moms (non-drugged, mentally ill, or otherwise clinically unfit that is) have a "mom instinct" that is usually spot on. And I always tell expecting friends to go with that instinct. If you have some doubts or questions you would like answered, go right ahead and ask them, but do so after you have considered your own values, life style, and comfort level. Once you become pregnant (or better yet, once you are over the age of 10), but even more so while pregnant, you are bombarded with opinions and pressures; there is no better time than when you find out that you are going to have a baby to decide that YOU will choose what is and is not ok for you, your family, your body, and of course your baby. I hope that you start slow, but soon, researching and understanding what choices and challenges that you may face while pregnant, birthing, and at each stage of raising your little peanut. I promise you, it's worth it! Don't think that ignorance is bliss; in this case IT'S NOT!   

Ok...I now step down from my soap box. 

These are the books I skimmed (to be totally honest) during my pregnancy and found very helpful and uplifting. I do not READ self-help books. I never totally agree with everything in them and usually am looking to better understand a certain topic, and so once I've gotten out of the book what I wanted, I put it on a shelf until I am curious about another section of the book. 

1. Ina May's Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin

I read this book for the birth stories. Plain and simple. And it did not dissapoint. I heard early on in my pregnancy that the more positive natural birth stories a women read or heard about, the higher the likelihood was that she would have a natural birth and so I took that statement very seriously. Though I know my experience had more to do with the help of my husband, doula, and my faith in God, I still recommend any woman looking to have a natural birth to read these stories. They are very candid stories which I really enjoyed. The birth accounts range from women who delivered 12lb babies, labors that lasted days, to women who sneezed and their baby came out. (exaggerations) My point being is that these are not stories that make you think that birth is a walk through a botanical gardens, but it does not make you feel as though you must be a mighty naturalista, no deodarant wearing, beastly, pain-loving warrior to give birth naturally. It is inspiring, uplifting and encouraging. I recommend it to anyone seriously considering a natural birth....You can do it sister!

2. Beyond the Sling: A Real-life Guide to Raising Confident, Loving Children the Attachment Parenting Way by Mayim Bialik

*I have to give props to my mom first. Before "Attachment Parenting" was a term, my mom was doing it (along with other very progressive moms) and she very gently let B and I know when she came to visit us around 8 weeks postpartum that there was no spoiling a baby. I think many new moms need to hear this and know, you can hold, breastfeed, sleep "in close proximity" with, kiss, etc.... your child as much as you want! I'm just gonna say it, the world needs more kids who were kissed and loved on TOO MUCH! There is a difference between this and buying your kids endless amounts of toys (a.k.a junk), electronics, and never telling them when they are wrong. Let's just get that straight! ........Man, that soap box just keeps calling my name! Ok, I'm back down again, for now. 

Mayim is great at explaining what Attachment Parenting is, why it works (scientifically), and how it worked for her and her familly. (Though I will tell you upfront her and her husband are now seperated :/ ...just being honest)
I did not feel that Mayim ever made the reader feel that they MUST follow "these steps" to have a perfect child. She simply explains the AP principles and how they have been shown to support a child's development. I really love the fact that she is a scientist talking about science. Not a mom trying to incorporate a subject that is beyond her scope of knowledge, into a book to attract readers. I actually found out about this book while watching The View a couple years ago. (before pregnant with E) and automatically was drawn to buy it. Really! I had no kids and no real thoughts of having one, but was immediately attracted to the things she was saying about AP. I didn't know why at the time, but my "mom instincts" are naturally very AP minded. I actually began reading the book super excited but then eventually just put it down because I was just like, "This is me already, I'm already convinced that this is all a great idea, what do I need to keep reading for?"... Though I will share that during the early weeks of having E, I was terrified of allowing her to sleep in our bed because of all the stories I had read; it took my mom coming to visit and some more research to understand safe ways to co-sleep/have a family bed and feel confident with that decision. My husband still says to this day that choosing to have a family bed is one of the best decisions we've made. 

3. The Baby Book by Dr. Sears

Great science backed, easy to read book about raising and making decisions for your child during the first 2 years of life. He also gives a lot of wise parenting tips from his personal experience. He has a lean toward natural parenting choices; promoting cloth diapering, AP ideals (though he does not call it AP), breastfeeding (while still discussing formula feeding family's situations), things like that. You may also really like to check out his site. It's full of great info about parenting and some things you may experience with your new baby. I love to quickly reference it every now and then when I've got a concern. 

4. Baby Led Weaning: The Essential Guide to Introducing Solid Foods-and Helping Your Baby to Grow Up a Happy and Confident Eater

This book is great for those who have never heard of Baby Led Weaning. BLW is pretty much a big name for a simple ideal: Allow baby to eat real food from day 1, preparing it in a way that they can learn to feed and stop feeding on their own. The book addresses the many benefits of this type of feeding. One being, that the baby learns to determine when THEY are full and stop eating. This is contrary to the way many of us see babies eat today. We typically see a mom or dad holding a brightly colored spoon dipped in a slimy, mushy jar of "food", waving it in front of baby's face trying to entice them to eat. This is the complete opposite of BLW. I think you will enjoy this book if you are into trying to raise an independant and confident eater. I did not read this entire book because I realized that once you understand the concept, a book isn't necessary. No one knows your child better than you and so therefore you are best at determining when and where to start with BLW. 

The common thread I have found in all of these books is their goal of facilitating confidence, whether it be in the parent, the child, or the process (ie. birth). This is very different than many books about pregnancy, birth, and parenting that instill fear and a sense of dependence rather than independence. I hope you will check out one, two, or all of these books; they really are worth picking up. 

-Anjelica


This was originally posted to my family blog, PR to Guam.

Tuesday, February 25, 2014

Tamari Chili Spiced Pumpkin Seeds

When I went back to the states for Christmas, I sent my hubby, S to the grocery store for a gift card to round out our mostly homemade gifts.  While there, S got a bit overwhelmed by the selection of wonderful goodies that we cannot get here in sunny Puerto Rico.  Just one of the tradeoffs for the island lifestyle.  I was already familiar with that feeling as I had been home a few months prior to that trip and had experienced the same crippling elation at the sight of such a varied selection of fresh produce. 

S came home with a number of tasty treats that day, most of which were some sort of produce.  However, he also got a nice big bag of spicy tamari roasted pumpkin seeds from the bulk foods section.  We had surely eaten this delightful snack before, but it had never been a staple food for us.  When you move to an island, your eating habits change a bit (or a lot) based on what is actually available.  At the time, we lamented the fact that we had discovered yet another snack that we could only have when we visited the states. 

Luckily for us, during our trip, we were not able to finish eating all of the pumpkin seeds so we brought them home with us.  I’m not sure exactly how it happened, but S and I finished off the snack at some point and we were very sad.  Then I started thinking, I can get raw pumpkin seeds, soy sauce, and cayenne pepper in Puerto Rico.  In fact, I already had everything but the seeds in my own house.  Why couldn’t I make my own?

That, my friends, is the day that chili spiced tamari pumpkin seeds were born.  Or made, as the case may be.  Yes, I realize that tamari and soy sauce are not the same thing, and technically I use Bragg’s Liquid Aminos, but “chili spiced liquid aminos pumpkin seeds” or “chili spiced soy sauce pumpkin seeds” just doesn’t have the same ring to it.  And this is my recipe, so I call it what I want.  J 

This recipe makes mildly flavored pumpkin seeds.  As you get to know me better, you will learn that I have a salt problem.  Well, I don’t think it’s really a problem, although S likes to tell me otherwise on a semi daily basis.  I also LOVE spicy food; the hotter the better.  As a result, I actually use much more cayenne and soy sauce than what is listed.  My recommendation is to taste as you go, using the recipe as a starting point.      
So, without further ado, I bring you the recipe for this life-changing, addictive treat.  ¡buen provecho!

 Tamari chili spiced pumpkin seeds

Ingredients:
2 cups raw hulled pumpkin seeds
½ tablespoon coconut oil
2-3   tablespoons liquid aminos, soy sauce, or tamari (or to taste)
2 teaspoons cayenne pepper (or to taste)
Directions:
     1.  Heat the coconut oil in large pan over medium heat. 
     2.  Add the pumpkin seeds and sauté for 3-5 minutes until they begin to turn golden brown and pop. 
     3.  Add soy sauce and cayenne and sauté for another minute until dry. 
     4.  Taste for seasoning and add more if desired.
     5.  Finish sautéing until dry and golden.  

Donna...aka mindful

Monday, February 24, 2014

Our Purpose

   
From left to right: Anjelica, Donna, and Hollie. 
 
     Welcome to the first post here at Passionate, Mindful, and Content.  This blog was thought up by three women who met and became close friends at a certain stage of their lives.  Now some of us have moved on to different places, and some of us are getting ready to.  Our hope for this blog is that it will help us to keep in touch and share our thoughts and experiences with one another no matter where we are in the world.  The purpose is to write about our lives as Christian wives and mothers (well, one of us is only a mother to her fur babies) in whatever way we see fit.  

     One of us is a southern gal with Puerto Rican roots, one a crunchy midwestern city girl, and one a gypsy military girl, and all of us are different colors.  In spite of our different perspectives, backgrounds, and personalities, we still maintain strong friendships with one another.  This blog is a way for us to share recipes, DIYs, product recommendations, and commentary, among other things.  We hope you enjoy the different viewpoints that each of us has to offer.

     One final serious note: the viewpoints expressed here are our own.  As we have said, we are all very different, strong personalities.  As a result, we don't always agree with one another.  This blog is here as an outlet for all of us and we hope to foster love, acceptance, and respect.  Although the purpose of certain posts may be to debate or discuss, we absolutely will not tolerate cursing, name calling, or any other disrespectful comments and they will be disabled.  This is not to say that we don't want your opinions or feedback.  They just need to be kept clean and respectful.

     So please come on in and have a look around.  If you want to share something with us, please don't hesitate to leave us a comment.